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  • Writer's pictureJamie Bates

How Do I Trust Again After Someone Has Hurt Me?

Have you ever trusted someone with your secrets and been let down?

Have you ever invested tons of love and time and space into someone you thought was your friend? Only to find out that they have been talking about you behind your back and spreading lies about you?

How many times have you trusted someone only to feel betrayed and hurt by their actions?

Often I have a conversations with people that say something like, "How do I trust again after being hurt so bad?" I say you don't. You should never trust anyone ever again, you just need awareness. Let me explain why and how to move forward without trust.

Google defines trust as: firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. The old Webster dictionary defines trust as: placing blind faith into another.

The problem with trust is as soon as you trust someone you stop using your awareness. Most of us are very trusting by nature. We trust people until they give us a reason to not trust them. We put blind faith into who we think they are instead of allowing ourselves to be aware of who they really are.

We trust they will be good people. We trust they will treat our things with respect. We trust they won't break our hearts into a millions of pieces. But we never actually check in to see if they are capable of what we trust them with.

Learning to trust again after being hurt is never something you can really accomplish. Because it isn't about just learning to trust someone, it's repairing the damage done to your soul. The damage was created when you didn't listen to your gut instincts and your inner knowing. You then default into “tying to figure out” if someone is good or bad in order to gain trust or put your blind faith in them.

You can bypass all this mess if you just decide right now that trust is just not a place you will function anymore. You can then forgive yourself for placing blind faith in others without asking if they were capable of the job. And then make the conscious choice to always be in your awareness.

Being in your awareness means you no longer just place blind faith in others. Being in your awareness means you are free to know things about others that will allow you to make an informed decision about who they are and what they are capable of being and or doing.

You want to hire someone to help you in your business? Don't just pick someone and trust they will do the job. Be in your awareness. Receive information about how they do business and what they create. And if it matches what you are searching for then choose them.

You want to give your newly 16 year old the keys to your new car? Don't just trust that today they will make good decisions, check into your awareness and ask. "Are they capable and able to make good decisions with my car today?"

The thing about being in your awareness is, it can change. Unlike trust, you make the decision one time and then never revisit it. With awareness you always stay in awareness. You can build your whole life functioning in awareness. Being in your awareness allows you to always check in to see what is true and possible each and every day. It keeps you knowing and receiving so if something changes you will be aware of it. Today can be the day you decide to take back control of your life by choosing to be in your awareness each and everyday.

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About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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