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How Do You Process Through Feeling Someone Else’s Sadness?

Updated: Sep 20, 2022

What do you do when you perceive sadness from someone especially a child?

As an empath or someone who is energetically sensitive perceiving someone’s sadness can be heartbreaking. We so desperately to help these people release their sadness. Feeling it in our own body we can easily identify and often we will absorb that sadness. This can be detrimental to our own health as this over-processes and overtaxes our system. The good news is there is a simple way to help people with emotion that doesn't involve taking it on ourselves!

This process may seem a bit invasive initially so let me just say up front that when you do this process you will not be taking anything from anyone. As I explain the process I will be fully explaining how this works and why it is so successful.

We will use an example of something I feel like we can all identify with.

You are at a grocery store shopping and you see a little boy. He looks so very sad you can tell his little heart is broken. When you look at him your heart hurts. Here's the step by step process.

1. Start by asking for pure positive life force energy to come from behind the little boy, pull the energy through the little boy, through the space in-between you and him and into your body. Allow this energy to come into your body and then flow through your body. You are not keeping this energy, you are only allowing the energy to flow through you. Essentially what you are doing is pulling pure positive life force energy through this little boy's body.

Important note- You can not hurt him by doing this and if he doesn't want to have the energy pulled through his body then he will refuse it and you will not be able too. Basically all you are doing is pulling pure positive life force energy through his body and into yours, fully receiving from this little boy.

Noting again you are not keeping this energy, you are only receiving it and pulling it through. So essentially you are receiving from this child.

If you have ever been sad you know that often when someone is sad, other people feel it and go into resistance. Because let's face it sadness sucks.

It doesn't feel good and really no one wants to feel sad. But when you receive someone's sadness you allow them to be received. You allow them to release that sadness. You acknowledge, "I know your sad little buddy and I am willing to receive it."

When you be this space for someone it helps to shift their sadness even if it's only temporary. You just changed that little boy's life even if it was only for 20 seconds.

You received his pain and you gave him some fresh energy.

Again, a reminder that you did not take his sadness away, you gave him an option to release it. What he chooses to do after you pull energy is his choice.

When I first started pulling energy I did it all the time. I loved how it shifted people's moods. When I saw the old lady at the grocery store, I pulled and received it. Yes, I felt her pain temporarily but what I felt the most was how her mood shifted. Even though we didn't speak I received from her and I offered her some new energy. A smile would come across her face and I knew, I did that. Even if I just gave her temporary happiness I received from someone who no one had received from in maybe years!

2. After you have pulled and received, send back the energy of gratitude. I like to send people back energy saying, "thank you for choosing to be here. I am so grateful for you and the space that you are." I envision that gratitude energy comes from my arm area and goes into their bodies, through their bodies and back to me. Creating a gratitude cycle. I am sending them this gratitude and the gratitude is coming back to me. It feels delightful! Again, I am not doing anything that can harm anyone. Just using my gifts to help create a new space for them. I am also just receiving and sending gratitude to someone who I may or may not know.

3. Then I am going to allow the energies to slow and dissipate and release.

You can make the process as long or as short as you desire. If I am in a grocery store I might do this for about a minute. And you might think a minute isn't that long to make a difference but I assure you if you practice this you get really good at doing it and you can change someone's mood in 30 seconds.

Again we may not shift their life forever but I tell you what, you sure can help someone release and move forward.

You sure can help a crying toddler and an overwhelmed mother.

You sure can change a lonely elderly person's day.

Instead of absorbing someone's sadness and feeling crappy all day, pull, receive, pull through and send back.

As an empath, we are energetically sensitive for a reason. We are meant to be receivers of this information so we can help transmute it. Here is your way. I promise if you practice this it will change your whole life! Learn to be a receiver of information instead of an absorber of emotion.

If you are dealing with a loved one and helping to change their sadness, I wrote a special blog on how I changed my daughter's broken hearts, you can find that here.

Also, I have a YouTube video on this process, you can find that here.

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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