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  • Writer's pictureJamie Bates

How I Transformed My Children’s Broken Hearts

Updated: Feb 28, 2023

After my divorce, I felt so bad for my kids. I didn’t want them to be a product of divorce. I didn’t want them to live in a broken home. They were so young. I hated that they had their family broken up. I really hated the life they were living in.

When I looked at them I saw their little broken hearts. I personally didn't want a divorce. I never intended to have one. My ex-husband made that decision and I was so mad at him. I was so mad our kids had to go back and forth. I was so mad they had to go anytime without both of us. And every time I looked into their little faces I saw the hurt and the pain. I felt like my heart was being ripped from my chest and I felt so hopeless to do anything about it.

Life was becoming unbearable and the pain I felt coming from them was overwhelming. I knew I had to find a way to change it or I was not going to make it. And that's when I discovered new ways to heal my life.

I started to understand how my projection of energy was contributing to their feelings. I started to become aware that when I saw them as broken, sad children that's what they became, broken, sad children. I started to understand when I saw that reflection I resisted it because it hurt me so badly. So I started to receive it. I started to feel it. I started to uncover the magic in being with the energy that I was projecting. And guess what? It changed.

I started pulling and receiving from them. I started fully receiving into my body the pain they felt. And I not only allowed myself to feel it, I received it and pulled it through. Then I started projecting back to the energy of gratitude. Grateful they were my children. Grateful they were happy and whole and healing. Grateful for their joy and laughter. And guess what? They started changing. They started becoming happy and joyful and laughing beings.

Then I started looking at our past and I did the same thing. I took the memories that felt yucky and painful and I pulled energy right through them and received it. I allowed myself to be space. I allowed myself to feel those painful memories. I allowed myself to receive all of it. I then projected back, gratitude for having the experience. Gratitude to myself for making it through it. Gratitude for my kids for experiencing it with me. Because the reality is? I can't change what happened in the past. And although I hated what we experienced, holding onto the hate about it was creating us hating who we were and the life we were living. The energy of that hate was holding us hostage in our lives and preventing us from having joy. And I was done being prisoner to my past.

And you know what happened? My kids they changed. They went from being angry, sad, broken-hearted little people, to happy, adjusted, joyful tiny humans. I didn't stop there. I learned more and more about energy and about how to manipulate it and create what I desired. I also learned how to make choices and be space. And I taught them. At a young age, I taught them how to make demands of themselves. How to show up like them. How to make choices to create a world that works for them.

And today I have three beautiful young women who know what they want out of life and aren't afraid to ask for it.

I just recorded a podcast about this very tool if you would like more information on how to use pulling and receiving to change your life dramatically!

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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