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  • Writer's pictureJamie Bates

Your Life Equals Your Choices!

Updated: Feb 10, 2020

Stop explaining yourself to others. You don’t own anyone anything. This is your life. You get to choose what works for you and what doesn’t!

It can be really hard to get out of the habit of explaining yourself to everyone about everything. I totally get it. I too used to share my every move with everyone looking for validation and or permission to move forward with my decision.

And you know what I discovered? When I learned to stop oversharing much of the anxiety over my life choices went away!

When I stopped telling everyone what I was choosing next and waiting for their response I discovered that much of my upset about my life centered around what other people thought about what I was choosing! Gasp! And you know what? All of those terrible things I had decided would happen if I stopped checking in with Grandma or Aunt Sue about what I should do next didn't actually happen!

The fear about what I thought my family and friends would say and do about what I wanted to choose never actually occurred!

And you know what I discovered? No one actually cares what I do with my life!

When I stopped checking in and over sharing the opinions from others virtually ceased to exist.

You know why? Because most people don't actually care what you choose or what you're doing. They are giving you advice purely because you're over-sharing because you feel like you have too. But when you stop life goes on.

Most of those people you were over sharing with won't even ask you what your doing now, because frankly, they were only responding because you were sharing. They are so mixed up in their own lives and their own choices that they probably won't even ask you what you're doing now. And grandma? She really just wants you to be happy. So do what you want to do and share with grandma how great life is. She really does just want the best for you.

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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