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  • Writer's pictureJamie Bates

Why I Stopped Saying No

Updated: Feb 11, 2020

I completely stopped saying no to my children years ago.

Not because I was going to “provide” them with everything they ever wanted. I stopped saying no because I know, 💯 percent for a fact that if they choose something they desire they can have it. They can make it happen.

When I first started consciousness work, one of the big things I had to work through was my feeling of lack. I literally felt as though I wasn’t worthy. I couldn’t have anything I desired. Life was hard. Money was a struggle. Blah, blah, blah. I started playing with a formula and I learned I literally could have anything, ANYTHING I desired if I was the space to receive it.

At that time I desired a new car- I didn’t try and figure out how to make that happen. I chose it. I really chose it. I cleared all the crap that said, “you can’t have a new car.” “You can’t afford that.”

Then I asked and received it.

What can I receive?

What can I be?

What would it take?

What would it be like?

And voila.

A brand new car showed up, paid for in full for two more years!

Right then I knew I was onto something. Right then, I stopped telling my kids no, and I started to encourage them to use their power to create anything they desire.

If they ask for something, I ask them right back, “I wonder what it would take for you to have that?” I encourage them with statements like, “how awesome would that be?” Or “oh wow, I wonder what that would feel like for you?”

I am aware that the more they receive from the creation the easier it will flow to them. And that if they play with having it and encouragement around it they are likely to create it faster.

Isn’t it time to teach our children the world is an abundant place full of possibilities?

What if every kid in this universe believed that to be true? Can you imagine how fast this reality would change?

I’m ready for something greater. How about you?

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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