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  • Writer's pictureJamie Bates

Why Do I Keep Saying Things I Don't like? How To Stop Perpetuating The Pattern.

Updated: Oct 17, 2022

Do you say things you don't mean?

Do you overshare with those around you even when you don't want too?

Do you ever find yourself checking in with others before you answer to see if what you would like to say is acceptable?

As an energetically sensitive navigating this reality without feeling bad is a process. We are so deeply aware of what others desire or require that we begin a toxic trait of people pleasing at an early age.

We learn what people want to hear by perceiving how different responses change their energy systems. We learn that energies like disappointment and sadness radiate and hurt our insides so we decide to try not to create those energies in others.

We start always perceiving the energies of others and how different responses would create different energies. Then we started responding in ways that we feel would create the most for others. And most of the time we have no awareness this is what we are doing.

Only problem with this becomes then we are not always in the truth. We find ourselves not speaking our truth and not always telling the truth. It's a hard reality to look at. And it often contributes to the downfall of many relationships, from friendships to marriages.

We tend to be ultra aware of heavy and hard energies such as disappointment and guilt as the frequencies are dense and we have felt them deeply in our core. So we energetically avoid them at all costs, actually creating them in the end. I find that most of us find these frequencies in our fields at a very young age because our parents and grandparents had them.

I know experts would say that these traits are of people who have experienced trauma and I do agree that most of us who have experienced trauma at a young age do have this. But I wonder just the same..... Is it possible we are just truly extra sensitive beings who came here to shift the planets vibration by transmuting energies into light? Meaning we brought all the lower energy frequencies into our field as an infant which actually created the way our life experiences were created. I know it may seem like a far fetched idea but the more I understand frequency and vibration the more I wonder if we weren't implanted with these frequencies to continue to uphold the polarity and keep the cycle going.

Learning to balance these energies also helps.

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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