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  • Writer's pictureJamie Bates

Who Do You Check In With To See What You Can Choose?

Updated: Feb 11, 2020

This month in my portal I am talking about ease. Being in the flow of ease. Choosing ease. Being the space of ease. And you know what I find is the biggest stopper of people being able to align with their own ease? The people around them! So often people will get caught up with checking in to what everyone around them will think about their choices with no regard to what they would really like to choose.

When you think about doing something, where is the first place you go? Do you wonder what your mom will think? Or what uncle earl might say? Do you worry about what your everyday choices will create for others? If this is you I guarantee that you are not even close to living a life that works for you.

Checking in to see what you can choose is a classic pattern of disharmony. It creates living in heaviness, inability to move forward, and tons of undue stress and anxiety.

Here's what I have discovered:

Checking in to see what you can choose is a paradigm within your system that literally keeps you looping back into checking in. So even though you may not want too. Even though you feel like you don't really care. Your mind automatically loads things like, "what will so and so think." or "What if that upsets so and so." Breaking the pattern isn't as easy as just stopping it and can be super frustrating if you know your ready to quit checking in and just choose what you would like to choose! If you are here and can't seem to stop checking in you do not want to miss this month's portal calls. Check it out on my website.

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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