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  • Writer's pictureJamie Bates

When People Choose Crazy....

Updated: May 27, 2020

Yesterday while I was on my way to run some errands I had an experience. One that would have stayed with me for days in the past. But not this time!

I was coming off the highway, there was a black Escalade in front of me. The light was red. We were waiting to turn right. The Escalade was inching into traffic debating on turning on red. And I say debating because it could have gone literally 20 times. Then the light turned green, the people turning left went, and here we sat. I looked left to see what he was waiting for and the traffic approaching the red light wasn’t quite stopped, but at this point, four cars had already turned left. I honked to let him know the light was green. Then the 15 cars behind me starting honking.

That erupted an angry soul.

Down went the window and out popped a hairy man hand flipping the bird and waving angerly as he let his foot off the brake and coasted through the nearly yellow light. As he turned right on the two-lane road he drove super slow down the middle of the lane as to not let anyone go around him.

All the while he was flaring about his middle finger in the air and I thought OMG! In the past, this would have enraged me! But all I could think about is if I had been sitting at the light like that not realizing it had turned green and someone honked I would’ve been like, “Oh shoot! My bad!” And I would have quick like got out the way.

Not this man. He proceeded to not only drive down the center of two lanes going five he proceeded that way until there was a break in the lane and you could turn left. Of course he quick like got in the left lane and that was the way I needed to go so he proceeded to hold me up for almost another mile! And all I could do was acknowledge him.

I acknowledged how very miserable he must be to project that much rage because he sat through most of a green light.

I acknowledged how out of control his life must feel that he has to control and dominate complete strangers.

I acknowledged how angry he is, like really? Miles of five miles an hour because I honked at you?

I made sure to keep my body relaxed and stay in my awareness of the crazy train he was on. And you know what?

I know I changed that man's life.

I never choose to get angry.

I never choose to get tangled in any of his projections.

I never even for a second allowed his five mile an hour speed to upset me.

Okay, 🤷🏻‍♀️ we doing five? Awesome let’s go!

I joked to myself as I acknowledged all his crazy and I even laughed out loud when I put my turn signal on and he sped off real fast.

I know I changed his life because instead of resisting and choosing anger with him I acknowledged what was true. And by acknowledging what systems and structures he was functioning in I shined the light right on him and all his emotional baggage glory. I posted noted him up with his unkindness. And I know that by doing that I am shining the light on his life and the things he needs to change.

And as I wrote this blog I just want to thank him and take a moment to publicly apologize for honking my horn at him 😂

To the man in the black escalade:

I’m sorry my horn agitated you. I apologize I wasn’t more patient. I could’ve just sat through the whole light but instead, I choose to honk at you. I take responsibility for my honking and next time someone sits at a light I will use that opportunity to practice my breathing exercises.

I love this life!

P.S. Right now in my awaken and align class we are practicing taking responsibility for what our actions create. It's amazing how much lightness in my being I felt after apologizing. It's pure freedom to not let someone's nastiness affect your life. I am so grateful for tools that help me create my life as ease.

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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