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  • Writer's pictureJamie Bates

The Pain/Pleasure Connection.... Are You Addicted To Feeling Bad?

Updated: Oct 17, 2022

If you find yourself in a constant state of searching for things to feel bad about you may need to spend sometime balancing your solar plexus. You solar plexus is our center for pain and pleasure, it's where our creativity and sexuality are born.

This energy center is responsible for your overall enjoyment of life. This chakra is also associated with water. Its all about flow, flexibility and freedom to express yourself. This chakra will address your relationship with yourself. If you grew up in an overly critical environment this is where your pain/pleasure connection to making you wrong may have started.

This concept might seem a bit strange and even hard to look but I think once you understand where I'm going with it it will make more sense. I am talking about the pain and pleasure connection. Really more than anything, I am looking at the place where we do self sabotage. The place where we uphold the pain almost in an addiction, an addiction to pain or feeling bad about ourselves or our lives. I'm not insinuating we are all self loathing pity partiers it's different than that....

There is this energy present I became aware of as I worked through my sacral chakra journey one of something like the pleasure of watching myself suffer. Although that isn’t the exact energy it’s this energy of kind of like.....

Choosing something and thinking how you would like it to turn out but having the opposite awareness right after and almost like aligning with it in a way just to have the pain of worry or the quickness of anxiety.

It’s like the place where your creativity gets shut down almost instantaneously. You have so many great ideas but you also have all the memories of the failed project stored all around you. Things feel undone and you think oh yes I will be motivated tomorrow to do it and tomorrow comes and you are happy to spend your day feeling guilty for one more day cause the pain of wrongness seems to string you so good. I get it I’ve been there.

Come with me on the journey of releasing this self defeating head noise on Expand Your Reality. You can listen to this weeks show as I deep dive into clearing these energies.

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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