Regret... Moving Beyond Feeling Bad For Your Choices.
Updated: Feb 11
There probably isn’t a person in this world who doesn’t feel bad about some choice they made in their life. Every one of us struggles with some sort of regret for
the choices we made, things we said, or experiences we created. I feel like if we truly understood what we were creating with the energy of regret we would understand the damage we were doing by choosing it.
Regret is a slippery slope. It creates a cycle of inner wrongness that’s almost impossible to change. When you regret a past choice you create energy around the situation. Every time you think of that situation you grow the area of energetic wrongness.
The situation then upholds an energetic marker in your energy field that continuously creates an inner circle of situations to feel regretful of. All a sudden your spending your daily life feeling like you should‘ve done that differently could’ve been better, would’ve been different if. It’s a never-ending energetic cycle of inner wrongness that will drown you in feeling bad about everything. From there that energy gets projected at others creating them equally feeling bad with no choice as well. When you think I could’ve made a different choice and my kid's feelings wouldn’t have gotten hurt, and then you feel bad you hurt their feelings. You create an energetic marker that becomes the way you connect to them. Before you know it when you think of your kid all you can think about is all the should’ve, would’ve, could‘ve that you did wrong.
Here are some easy ways to combat the regret.
1. Do some clearings and some energy pulls.
Check out this episode of Expand Your Reality. It has some great info about how to clear it out for good.
2. Make a conscious choice to stop projecting regret at yourself.
You made a mistake. It’s not the end of the world. Choose to release your feelings.
3. Forgive yourself.
You are a human being functioning in a world of emotions. Sometimes you get caught in some funky energy and you make a mistake. It’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up.
4. Say you're sorry.
If you feel like you let someone down or didn’t do something you thought you should've, don’t feel regretful. Say, "Hey look, I did this and I’m sorry, I’m trying to change. I apologize. I will do it differently next time." And if you make the same mistake again. Oh well. You live and you learn. Making yourself feel bad isn’t going to magically change what happened, but apologizing can! So go apologize again!
5. Let it go and move on with your life.
You only live once. Life is too short to regret your life.
Breathe. Expand out. And be space.
About the author
Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at www.jamie-bates.com