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Regret... Moving Beyond Feeling Bad For Your Choices.

Updated: Aug 20, 2020

There probably isn’t a person in this world who doesn’t feel bad about some choice they made in their life.

Every one of us struggles with some sort of regret old choices we have made, things we have said, or experiences we have created.

I feel like if we truly understood what we were creating with the energy of regret we would understand the damage we were doing by choosing it.

Regret is a slippery slope. It creates a cycle of inner wrongness that’s almost impossible to change. When you regret a past choice you create energy around the situation. Every time you think of that situation you grow the area of energetic wrongness.

The situation then upholds an energetic marker in your energy field that continuously creates an inner circle of situations to feel regretful for.

All the sudden you’re spending your daily life feeling like you should‘ve done that differently, you could’ve been better, would’ve been different if. It’s a never-ending energetic cycle of inner wrongness that will drown you in feeling bad about everything.

From there that energy gets projected at others creating them equally feeling bad with no choice as well.

When you think I could’ve made a different choice and my kid's feelings wouldn’t have gotten hurt, and then you feel bad you hurt their feelings. You create an energetic marker that becomes the way you connect to them. Before you know it when you think of your kid all you can think about is all the should’ve, would’ve, could‘ve that you did wrong.

Here are some easy ways to combat the regret.

1. Do some clearings and some energy pulls.

Check out this episode of Expand Your Reality. It has some great info about how to clear it out for good.

2. Make a conscious choice to stop projecting regret at yourself.

You made a mistake. It’s not the end of the world. Choose to release your feelings.

3. Forgive yourself.

You are a human being functioning in a world of emotions. Sometimes you get caught in some funky energy and you make a mistake. It’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up.

4. Say you're sorry.

If you feel like you let someone down or didn’t do something you thought you should've, don’t feel regretful. Say, "Hey look, I did this and I’m sorry, I’m trying to change. I apologize. I will do it differently next time." And if you make the same mistake again. Oh well. You live and you learn. Making yourself feel bad isn’t going to magically change what happened, but apologizing can! So go apologize again!

5. Let it go and move on with your life.

You only live once. Life is too short to regret your life.

Breathe. Expand out. And be space.

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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2 comentários

11 de jan. de 2022

What if u don’t regret the choice but only the repercussions of the choice? I really don’t feel bad for the choice it is what needed to be done but necessary changes aren’t always easy for other people you have relationships with. Maybe I am over empathizing for other?

Jamie Bates
Jamie Bates
11 de jan. de 2022
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Hi! If you did what needed to be done, stand firm in that choice. You can use this exercise with the person that is struggling. It might help them release the resistance they are caught in. Change is hard but sometimes necessary. Shifting the energy can help a lot.

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