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  • Writer's pictureJamie Bates

I Thrive On Change And I Won’t Make That Wrong Anymore.

Updated: Feb 11, 2020

Today I am moving my oldest daughter back to Chicago for college. Moving is daunting and exhausting, but it also sparks so much familiarity within me.

This will be her 12th move in her short 19 years. To say I have moved a lot is probably an understatement. I have never really felt comfortable anywhere for too long. And she is repeating my pattern. Going to Chicago last year coming home, moving twice and back, it’s all the same as always.

I have bought, sold and rented all over the same county I live in my whole life. Moving a few times outside of it always to return home. The thing is, I am not comfortable anywhere for too long. My threshold seems to be about two years and I’m ready for more. If I counted how many times I moved in my lifetime I guarantee it would probably triple the number above, as my mom was the same way when I grew up.

I used to make me wrong moving so often, why can’t I just be settled like everyone else? Truth is, I love the change of scenery. I love the unsettled of newness. I thrive in situations of change and I will no longer make myself wrong for it.

In my 41 years, the longest I ever lived anywhere was five years. After my divorce, I purchased a home for me and my three girls right in the heart of the city. That home nurtured me through my grieving process, helped me and my girls grow, and taught me how to be independent. But when I met my new husband, we bought a new home, that had everything I thought I ever wanted. Until I realized everything I ever wanted, wasn’t even everything I ever wanted. Waking too, whose dream am I living any way? Selling and moving again, I realized how much of a love/hate relationship I had with change. Today after one more move I realize, I love change. Change excites my body and creates more for me. It forces me to do something different. It makes me look at all my sh*t. And it reminds me how very strong I am.

In this reality, we have this idea that you have to be settled and that creates an idea of security. I call bologna on that. I moved last month and I have never felt more secure in my life.

Change is the only constant. We thrive on change. Don’t make your current change experience wrong. You are not a tree. You do not have to stay where you are planted.

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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