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  • Writer's pictureJamie Bates

How Do You Deal With The Negative Drainers In Your Life? Tips And Tools To Negate Drainers.

Updated: May 15, 2021

If you have to live or work with a constant downer you know first hand how difficult and draining these people can be. Just being in their presence can create chaos and upset in your body without them even talking!

Here are some tips and tools to negate the drainers in your life. What if they never bothered you again?

1. Stay expanded and do energy pulls.

When you expand you give yourself more space so you don't "feel" so boxed in and overwhelmed. It also makes the megapixels of you bigger. Negativity is small and confined. Let that sh*t flow right through the space you be. If you're not sure how to expand check out this video.

2. Acknowledge the crazy train they are riding is of their own creation.

If someone chooses to be negative, it literally has nothing to do with you. That's theirs, not yours! I get it feels like it has to affect you but it actually doesn't! If you acknowledge right now that is theirs, not yours, you can release it. Identify what they are choosing and acknowledge that choice! Then you can actually be fine with them choosing to be negative!

3. Don‘t engage in the complaints.

Understand that their negative rant is the energy they are looping in. You being in it with them only drags you down. Getting mad or upset with them for being negative still contributes energy to the situation. Learn how to do some energy techniques like pulling and receiving. Learn how to be in allowance of what they are choosing or being and dismiss yourself from the upset. If you no longer engage it, it changes faster.

4. Dismiss yourself from conversations that feel negative or demeaning to yourself or others. Allowing yourself to participate even as a bystander creates wonky energy. If someone starts ranting about someone that's your sign to leave now!

5. Smile! A lot!

Smiling deflects negativity! Choose to smile even when you don't feel like it. It will lighten your mood and change things fast!

6. Choose happiness.

I know it sounds easier than it feels but happiness really is a choice. When you wake up in the morning choose happy. Before engaging with this person choose happy! You will find either they will make a different choice or they will get so angry with you they will dismiss themselves from being around you. Either way.... YOU WIN!

If you need more help, check out all the tools I have available to help you choose happy!

About the author

Jamie Bates is a consciousness facilitator, author, podcast host, wife, mother, empath, and energy healer. Jamie's podcast, Expand Your Reality offers a wide variety of tools and healing processes that are also found in her many workshops and online programs. Check them all out at


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